Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Double Whammy

My aunt called tonight to say that Grandpa Conrad is still in the hospital and hoping to come home tomorrow (good news) but now Grandma Dee is also in the hospital, as a patient. She was there visiting Grandpa today when she decided to run down to the gift shop to get Grandpa a magnifying glass so he could read the newspaper but never came back up to his room... She was feeling dizzy and weak so she went to the ER and now she has been admitted as well. I don't know many details as none of our family is there with them but from the bits and pieces I have heard, it sounds like it's nothing too serious but apparently serious enough that they both are in the damn hospital! My first instinct is to get my ass out there and help out any way I can and say fuck it to the plans I have to go out for their Anniversary party in March but wouldn't you know it, I came down with a rip-snorter of a cold today so that will hold me back at least a few days.

My mom and Aunt are hesitant for me to go out there, not sure why considering neither one of them can make it out any time soon. My feeling is that some family is better than no family. They both have been fighting like cats and dogs over that damn anniversary party too which I'm sure is no good for my grandparents' fragile hearts. Why can't we just cut the crap and work together as a family? Screaming into phone receivers and hanging up when you don't like what you hear is NOT helping. I know this is hard. It sucks too, but this is life and if we have learned anything from those two wonderful grandparents of mine is that you treat people with love and respect. Whether we like it or not, we all get old and we all get sick and eventually we all will die. It's how we deal with these situations that shapes a family and one so tiny as ours needs to work together and stay close, if not for each other, for my grandparents. They need us whether they'll come out and ask for the help or not.


It is not my intention to make make even bigger waves by writing this all down for everyone to see but I needed to get it out and this little blog of mine is my version of one of those squishy stress relief balls. Thanks for listening.

13 comments:

Shady Lady said...

Squish away!

Sending healing thoughts to Grandma & Grandpa and happy thoughts and hugs to you. :)

Riot Kitty said...

Squishing is good. Family working together = difficult with my extended family, too. Hope you and they are better soon!

LL Cool Joe said...

It's amazing the way close family seem to argue and fight over stuff. Life is too short. You are so right we are all going to get old, ill and die so we need to try and love one another and get along while we can.

I hope you feel better soon Aliceson. You do what your heart tels you to do. You have a good one so it will lead you in the right direction.

Out in Them Sticks said...

Family life can be such a pain the butt sometimes. Hang in there!

Secret Mom Thoughts said...

Hope your Grandpa and Grandma are doing better and home soon. Sorry things are so stressful with the family right now. Hang in there.

Kelly said...

Sigh...

I hope things get better.

Missy said...

I totally hear ya about your blog being your stress ball. You know mine is. Good luck.

Jenni said...

Ugh, hope things get better for your fam soon, lady.

sheila said...

Good Lord girl, did you get the garlic? I bet not, lol.

This squibbling you speak of sounds a lot like things that go on here. Makes me feel like picking up and going far far away with just the hubbs and kids. And NOT giving out our address/phone.

Seems like there always has to be an issue with something. I wish you well. ANd I hope your grandparents get better fast!

Feel better!

Juli Ryan said...

So it's not just my family that has these episodes? Sending healing thoughts to your grandparents and family. And keep on squishing--it's good to release those feelings.

Such Lovely Freckles said...

Meh, that just stinks all around. Get better soon... and your grandparents too. Hugs.

melodyofamom said...

Sorry about the awful day! Hope your gma gets out of there soon!

Wild Child said...

There's all sorts of family dynamics, and boy, I could not believe how some 'grownups' were behaving when my grandma was sick. I hope your family members actually thought carefully about what you said, rather than putting it off as you just blowing steam. You said some important stuff.